HOW TO END A BAD DATE

A lot can happen on a first date.

Sometimes it’s like a fairytale and other times you just want to wake up from the nightmare. Let’s go through this imaginative world together, lovelies.

Try to imagine this scenario: you’re meeting someone for the first time and the person decides to grace him/herself with Joseph’s coat. I believe we remember how many colors Joseph had on his coat. Well let’s theme your date the “Rainbow date”.

If you’re someone that doesn’t mind multicolor, I absolutely hail thee. 

I once read a story of a lady who met a guy online. When she met him in person, he was at least fifty pounds overweight. She said, “Hi, I’m sorry, but you deceived me with your photos. Have a good evening.” And she left. She said her time was valuable, and she wasn’t going to spend time with someone who lied to her. The weight wasn’t an issue, but his deception was.

Why will you send pictures that look nothing like you in reality?

Why will you do that?

Another terrible scenario is when your date opens his/her mouth to talk and you inhale the stench of dead rats. I shudder at the thought of that, but what would be your first reaction? 

How would you escape?

Or let’s say the person was being disrespectful on a first date? No respect for you or for the waiters. We all know that    “Respect is reciprocal,” so if you can’t respect yourself, I don’t know what you’re expecting.

To those people that keep going on and on about themselves and their achievements and won’t let you utter a word, where is your conscience?

All these situations are quite difficult to escape without coming off as “rude”. So, here are some tips on how you can end a bad date without being disrespectful:

• Unless the date is truly terrible, a simple “thank you” is a standard way to end it. If you're feeling extra generous, tack on another, “Thanks again” as you're leaving. Speak up for what makes you feel more comfortable so that you’re not feeling bad or guilty when there’s no connection.

• Have only one drink; you may really want that glass of wine but at times, taking another glass of wine indicates you are enjoying the person’s company. If you’re a very sensitive person and think with just one drink, the date will be too short, instead you can nurse on your drink(This is what we call stalling).

• Be honest; if he seems emotionally stable, you can go ahead and tell him the truth, instead of using an excuse, be honest and say it was nice meeting him, but you’re ready to call it a night.

  

• Excuse yourself to the restroom: If you’re worried about being rude, chances are you’re not going to be checking your phone on the date. Excuse yourself to the restroom, call one of your close friends and make an escape phone call plan with them, and when you come back, just wait for them to do their job. And boom, the escape room activated. I’m not a fan of deception, so try to only use this when a guy or a lady makes you uncomfortable.

• Don’t comment on future plans: what I mean is avoid statements like, “See you some other time,” or “see you later” at the end of a goodbye. If you have no plans of seeing the person again, say something like, “It was nice meeting you. Have a good night.”

  

I’m sure with these little hints you can boldly avoid or end some dates without feeling bad about them.

So please kindly share your worst date experience with us in the comment section.

If you have more tips on how to end a bad date, don’t hesitate to drop it in the comment section as well, you will most definitely be saving a life out there.

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This was a good date so I’ll see you soon.